The Why, the More, and the Yes the Now
In the excitement of having sooo much to write about, my horses were so far behind the cart that they were still checking out the Golden Gate Bridge while the cart was taking in a Broadway show. So, there’s that. I’ve taken about a dozen steps back and going back to the beginning. I have been all over the place, my writing going the way of my brain making a mockery of meditation.
I paused for a little bit and stopped to take a breath. Or a dozen.
Good thing I’m not distracted by squirrels or anything. Or shiny stuff. Or ice cream.
In the process of doing the what (rebooting for Life 2.0), I had lost track of the why. I didn’t lose the why, not exactly; I had simply misplaced it under the legion of books and notebooks and pens stacked in my office.
I had forgotten that I had misplaced it, though.
I saw a TED talk a while back in which Simon Sinek spoke about, “How Great Leaders Inspire Action.” In it, he talks about the importance of starting with “why.”
I loved the talk.
I was inspired by it.
And then the why fell right out of my head, probably bouncing on an un-mopped kitchen floor in the process. Sometimes thoughts tend to do that around me.
Why is the driving force for any who, what, when,
Why do we want to change? Why do we do what we do? Why do we avoid what we avoid?
The why is the all-important starting point.
Viktor Frankl, in his book Man’s Search for Meaning, writes,
“Those who have a ‘why’ to live, can bear with
almost any ‘how’.”
Do we even know our why? Have we ever thought about not only what we want out of life, but also why we want it?
My why for Life 2.0 is still a work in progress. The short-ish rough draft version is that I want more. I know that there is no such thing as true security (sorry, folks), but I want more, security or not. I want more connection with the God of my understanding (the understanding part is also a work in progress), with the world, with people who are important to me, with my animals. I want more health so that I can be present in those relationships and work actively and intentionally to strengthen them. I want more health, also, so that I can embark on adventures and more financial means to invest in those adventures. I want more time, more energy, and more power to make the world a better place, amplifying artists who do make the world a better place and empowering people with the vital skill of critical thinking.
Apparently, as I was writing this, I figured out my why for Life 2.0:
I want to make the world a better place for having
me in it, and in order to do that,
I need more.
Yes, it sounds horribly selfish, wanting more. Is it? Maybe.
But maybe not.
I believe that everyone can have more without causing suffering to others. Maybe that’s the line that divides the selfish from the unselfish. Or maybe it’s just a justification because I don’t want to think of myself as selfish. But I am absolutely certain (and that’s something I don’t say often, that absolutely thing) that we can all have more without hurting others. We just have to be willing to work for it.
Really, really, really work for it.
This life, whether we believe in reincarnation or not, is a train that rides a fixed rail of time. No matter how many medical miracles we are given, no matter how often we’ve managed to survive our own stupidity (hello, my adolescent years, I’m talking to you) our life will in fact end.
This is why it is so vitally important that we make the most of our life now.
Yesterday is over, tomorrow isn’t promised. All we have is now.
“No the now,” was the answer William Wallace was given when asking Marrin’s father to let her join him in a horseback ride. It’s looped, so I cackled like a kid watching it.
But it cannot be “No the now.” It must be
“Yes the now.”
If we don’t discover our why now, we cannot do our what or how effectively. How will we even know if it’s effective if our more doesn’t work toward our why?
We must know our why in order to get our more, otherwise, it’s pointless. We may get more but if it doesn’t serve a purpose, what good is it, really? What good is it if it’s a blind grab for more that hurts others? What good is that?
The bad news is that there is no security. A health crisis or a financial crisis or a natural crisis or one of a thousand possible crises can show us that there is no security. If we get more just to get more, we can lose that more in less time than it takes a two-year-old’s tear to drop from her eyelash.
The good news is that if we know our why, we can almost always recover. We can bear almost any how. We can stumble and tumble, but our why can pick us up once again and move us along.
If you want more, do you know why?